Women Don’t Make Good Platonic Friends

Well, not for habitually single men, anyway.

What we’re talking about here is not really the “friendzone”, because that’s a realm where you want to be in a relationship with a particular woman, but can’t make it past being mere platonic friends, and probably getting taken advantage of all the while. That itself is a pretty nasty predicament, but even being in a friendship where you genuinely have no desire to see it become more than that carries its own risks.

Habitually single, never-in-relationship “incel” men often make the mistake of thinking that it’s at least “safe” to be friends-only with a woman, sort of like the non-swimmer staying in the shallow end of the pool. Truth be known, it may even be more dangerous than being in a relationship with the woman, because in a relationship, at least there is a sort of respect that comes from the original attachment, and acts as a buffer against the her impulsive wrath. Oh, and don’t expect her to keep the kid gloves on with him, due to his lack of experience. She will pull out all the stops, hitting him with all of mind games and emotional tactics that he’s not ready for, without mercy.

When it comes to emotional games, women can easily out-manouver even the most experience men, and always have been — it’s how they’ve evolved. Men have the upper hand physically and intellectually, women have the upper hand emotionally and tactically. Incel men are especially handicapped when it comes to these sorts of things, and are sitting ducks, even in platonic friendships. Remember, even a female friend is still a female, and they don’t put in a different brain when they are with friend-only males, then swap it out with the typical one when they’re with their main squeeze. Some of the rules are different, but when things ultimately come unglued, all bets are off.

Even when it seems like things are going just fine, you may be on the brink of an explosion, as soon as there is a source of ignition. The incel is not going to be able to see any of the warning signs — better yet, he won’t have the experience to realize that there are no warning signs. He’ll be going along, thinking everything is fine, and before he knows it, he’ll find himself being squished through the ringer without even having had the benefit of being able to plug her. Best-case scenario: he realizes how naive he was, feels like an idiot, and doesn’t make the same mistake twice. Seldom does it go that smooth.

Women are things that require special handling. They require experience and skill. Grown women are not entry-level — you have to know what you are doing.

The best thing for men with little or not experience with women is to keep a respectful distance. Family and working relationships are fine, but avoid getting on a personal level with them, unless you want to get a taste of what you don’t deserve, and pay the price for something they won’t ever give you.

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4 comments

  1. I don’t really see how that’s different from having “friends” from either gender.
    Often the mask falls off these so-called “friends,” and their true nature is revealed.
    Most friends are only “fair weather.”
    There’s a famous ironic saying: “If you want a friend, buy a dog.”

  2. I don’t have time to leave a suitable response to this article, but wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed finding your blog. You’re a good writer. Keep thinking…

  3. All great points.

    I fell hard for a female co-worker. She got free food, iPhone chargers, t-shirts (which she gave to her boyfriend), candy, flowers, compliments, and the amusement of twirling me in her little fingers during spare moments of boredom. In return, I got…absolutely nothing.

    Oh, I did get in trouble with my manager over screwing up a report due to her guidance. I did get that.

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