Rarely are women straightforward about why they will discard a man like a used paper plate, because that would involve a lot of emotional heavy lifting that they don’t feel it’s their job to do. There are a couple of ways to get around that:
1. They wait for him to say or do something that they can be offended by, sometimes even provoking him to say or do it, and then they jump on it, hold it over his head and throw him in the waste basket.
2. They raise the bar of expectations to some unattainable height — often progressively — and then when the man fails to meet that bar, they treat it like a betrayal and in the waste basket he goes.
A woman does this so that she can feel like it’s all his fault. It’s a real bonus if she can make him feel like it’s his fault as well.
This is just one of many tactics that women have evolved to use throughout the ages, and realizing it can help a man from going into the rut of delusion about what he supposedly did wrong. If a man thinks that the woman dumping him or not is all up to him and what he does, then when he gets dumped simply because he doesn’t measure up, he won’t understand it. Leaving a guy is not about making him understand anything, it’s about trading up for another man who has better genes, even if there are no current prospects for her.
The sad truth is that women generally don’t have the kind of attachment to men that they feign having, and that men often have to the women. It’s more of a utilitarian setup, but that doesn’t mean that women themselves even realize this. They want to believe that the glue that binds them to a man is more of a complex mixture than it actually is, and that actually explains why they would play games like this in order to protect their egos. To realize that love is usually not “true” when the rubber hits the road is the kind of self-reflection that women are not inclined to want to do. They have been taught to believe that they are more than utilitarian opportunists, but not amount of well-intended upbringing and pop culture can change what they really are.
So, if and when a woman discards you, don’t take it personally, no matter what she says. It wasn’t what you said, it was what you are, and you are not the author of your own genes. Before you blame yourself or whatever it was she said you did, just keep this in mind: if women actually left men because of what the men supposedly did, there wouldn’t be battered women’s shelters in every major city.