Within incel circles, there is a term known as “ascending”, which simply means rising out of incel and establishing a relationship. Some may even say it’s just achieving unpaid sex, but that’s usually the guy who just achieved unpaid sex, but doesn’t yet realize that it’s not a gateway to a relationship for him. Anyway, “ascending” means becoming noncel.
Well I’d like to introduce another term: transcending, or “breaking the incel sound barrier”.
When one reaches a point in his incel career, where becoming noncel is no longer a priority, and a life of serene, single independence is preferred, you have transcended the need for a significant other. It’s a concept that mostly only “oldcels” understand — most “youngcels” don’t even want to think such a state can exist. Of course, when you’re in your 20s, the meaning of life seems to be ascension; but life after the need for a romantic/sexual partner does exist, and is worth living.
Lowering testosterone levels help with this of course, but it’s not the only thing needed. It takes a certain kind of cynical acceptance of female nature and the current status quo. You have to unlearn a lot of the Walt Disney Happy Ending™ lies that you had been programmed to believe in your young life. There’s a lot of deprogramming to do for most people, but it will come with time, as long as you can just hold on and not kill yourself before you get all of the lies washed out of your system.
How do you know when you’re there? When you no longer feel the “magic”…when the thought of meeting a female gives you more negative than positive vibes…when engaging in conversation with a female annoys you more than interests you…when you have no sympathy for females like you once did…when even the most ostensibly “perfect” female you meet can’t blind you, or make you forget that she’s still riddled with all of the modern female characteristics that are just going to dash your hopes at best, ruin your life at worst. Oh, you’ll get there eventually, with enough time and disappointment.
The reward comes when you look back at the last few years of transcendence, and realize how much you have saved yourself, in terms of time, money and mental injury.
Again, this is a concept that many young, budding incels are not going to understand or even want to think about, and that’s natural, really. All that the elder incels can do is serve as a living example of how life can be lived, and how the suffering will eventually subside, without suicide. I think that’s by itself a noble reason to keep living, and as large of a percentage of the young male population is expected to be relegated to incel, cut out of the modern technocratic polygamy paradigm, young incels need as much hope for the future as they can get.